“Whatever became of the moment when one first knew about death? There must have been one, a moment, in childhood, when it first occurred to you that you don’t go on forever. Must have been shattering. Stamped into one’s memory. And yet, I can’t remember it. It never occurred to me at all. We must be born with an intuition of mortality. Before we know the word for it; before we know that there are words. Out we come, bloodied and squalling, with the knowledge that for all the points of the compass, there’s only one direction. And time is its only measure.”—Tom Stoppard, “Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead” (Submitted by freunde-nicht-diese-toene)
Hopscotch is a festival, but it is different. It is in downtown Raleigh, and involves pretty much every venue in town. So instead of smelly festival kids and tents, it is just a bunch of bar hopping and catching tons of bands at every place in town.
Think South by Southwest, but in Raleigh (and not nearly as massive, since this is only Hopscotch's second year)
Oh wow, I had no idea. That’s much better! I like Raleigh too, had a good time at some venues there last summer.
Well, I’m definitely figuring this into my schedule then. Thanks for letting me know =)
Hi. How ya doing. My name is Liz, and I am here with a message from the Foundation of Ladies Who Are Sick of Being Told Who and What To Do* (FLWASBTWWTD for short). This goes out to all of you self-proclaimed “Nice Guys” who write and say things like this, or this, or…
2. When you see a woman walking by herself, leave her alone.
3. If you pull over to help a woman whose car has broken down, remember not to rape her.
4. If you are in a lift and a woman gets in, don’t rape her.
5. When you encounter a woman who is asleep, the safest course of action is to not rape her.
6. Never creep into a woman’s home through an unlocked door or window, or spring out at her from between parked cars, or rape her.
7. When you lurk in bushes and doorways with criminal intentions, always wear bright clothing, wave a flashlight, or play “Boys Who Rape (Should All Be Destroyed)” by the Raveonettes on a boombox really loud, so women in the vicinity will know where to aim their flamethrowers.
8. USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM! If it is inconvenient for you to stop yourself from raping women, ask a trusted friend to accompany you when lurking in shadows.
9. Carry a rape whistle. If you find that you are about to rape a woman, you can hand the whistle to your buddy, so s/he can blow it to call for help.
10. Give your buddy a revolver, so that when indifferent passers-by either ignore the rape whistle, or gather round to enjoy the spectacle, s/he can pistol-whip you.
11. Don’t forget: Honesty is the best policy. When asking a woman out on a date, don’t pretend that you are interested in her as a person; tell her straight up that you expect to be raping her later. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the woman may take it as a sign that you do not plan to rape her.
I laughed really hard at this. Should I have? I guess the point is that preventing rape is as easy as… not raping someone and most ‘sexual assault prevention’ tips focus on telling women what they need to do. You know, feel scared all the time, don’t dress like a slut, don’t get drunk, be alone, etc. I like these tips better.
On a larger level, I think preventing sexual assault can only be done by changing our systematic attitudes. Like, if guys weren’t told they have to be masculine all the time and that violence is masculine so the way for them to get their identity back is to become more violent. But this is a post in itself. I’ll write it, I promise.
At what point did I start following fuckyeahscentedcandles and why? I can imagine I would for the fuck of it but their posts just started showing up on my dash and I have no recollection of even visiting the page.
I will now be double checking every single action I make today because obviously, my life is a lie.